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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Tips to Handle Stress and Be Positive

This is not one of my usual light-hearted posts. One of the reasons I am not here much, is because I'm dealing with a lot of stressful situations. I know everyone deals with them, because that's the way life is. I guess my point here is to bring something positive out of all of it, and share stuff I've learned. My hope is that what I say here, can help someone deal with whatever problems they are having.

So, here are my tips to handle stress and be positive:

1. Recognize a positive event each day.

2. Savor the event and log it in a journal or tell someone about it.

3. Start a daily gratitude journal.

4. List a personal strength and note how you used it.

5. Set an attainable goal and note your progress.

6. Report a relatively minor stress and list ways to reappraise the event positively.

7. Recognize and practice small acts of kindness daily.

8. Practice mindfulness, focusing on the here and now rather than the past or future.

Do at least one of these things each day, and it will help.

More things:

- Appreciate the world around you. If you can, get outside and enjoy the beauty of nature.

- Develop and bolster relationships.

- Learn something new.

- Choose to accept yourself, flaws and all.

- Practice resilience - rather than let loss, stress, failure, or trauma overwhelm you, use them as learning experiences and stepping stones to a better future.


Do you have any thoughts or things you'd like to add to this?

32 comments:

  1. Resilience = determination = stubbornness for me lol When the crap keeps on piling just have to get up and dig. You said it much better haha hopefully the stress becomes less.

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    1. Thanks. I can handle a lot of stress, but it's so hard when people you love are struggling. Hopefully things will get better.

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  2. I'm sorry!
    Every day is a blessing and every person you meet a child of God - don't take either for granted.

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  3. I hope things get better soon! A great list of ways to deal with stress. I've been practicing #5 on it lately by re-evaluating my goals and making more attainable ones. It is helping.

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    1. Yeah. Number 5 is good for people who put too much on their shoulders. You have to make things doable.

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  4. I have learned much about stress and how to deal with it from self help books by Paul McKenna, Much of what you have written I already know. I also learned that "To Every Negative Problem Is A Positive Solution".
    I agree getting out and about is a good thing and having a beach nearby to me helps.
    I do hope you are feeling the benifit and remember laughter is the best medicine, although with two lively children that you have I'm sure you get plenty.
    Good luck Sherry......will be thinking of you.
    Yvonne.

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    1. I wish I had a beach nearby. The sound of the water helps calm me. Not much laughter with my children lately. I'd sure like to find some positive solutions!

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  5. I read a great positive technique somewhere. When you brush your teeth, focus your mind on five (or three or whatever number) things you're grateful for. But they have to be a different five each time you brush your teeth (they recommend doing it in the morning only). I kind of like that.

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  6. Hi, Sherry!

    This is quite a departure for you and I am sorry to learn that you have been going through a stressful period. The tips you listed are all excellent and go along with principles I learned in motivational seminars.

    Off the top of my head I would recommend the following. Learn to recognize and celebrate the small victories. Regard setbacks as learning experiences which automatically reframes them as positive events. The game is never over until it is over. Don't be the one who blows the whistle prematurely and calls it quits. Given enough time and following a viable plan, you can reach your goal. Set modest goals and when you attain them, cross them off your list and thank and reward yourself for your accomplishments. Doing so builds confidence and momentum enabling you to tackle larger goals.

    Take lots of deep breaths. They calm you. Get around animals. They allow you to take life and yourself less seriously. Being out in nature in the great outdoors recharges your batteries and soothes your soul.

    Don't sweat the small stuff.
    (It's all small stuff.)

    Thanks, dear friend Sherry!

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    1. I wish my problems were just about setbacks. I've had plenty of those, and can handle them just fine. I can also handle a lot on my plate. But I'm not sure that what my family and I are going through is "small stuff." Going outside definitely helps, and I'm doing as much of that as I can. Thanks for your advice.

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  7. Some great tips.

    My friend keeps a big jar, big enough so that it can be shaken, the contents mixed-up, and every day she posts at least one 'positive' note into that jar whether it be something that has happened, a silly joke her daughter has come home from school with or merely a FaceBook cartoon that has made her smile and whenever she is stressed or feeling a little down
    she picks something out of the jar that will make her smile.

    Stay positive my friend. x

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  8. There are many here that I use!

    Some others:
    Watch a show or visit someone who always makes you laugh.
    Do some hard work or exercise until you sweat, then shower.
    Get off alone and have a good cry.

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    1. Exercise and playing music helps me. Thanks!

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  9. I hope whatever situations are stressful get resolved soon. We all relate to that. It is important to dwell on the positive things in your life so you're not overwhelmed.

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    1. Yes. I've had a lot of storms in the last few years, but this has been like a hurricane. As my grandmother always said, "This too, shall pass." I just have to remember that.

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  10. Hi Sherry
    You're not alone. Thank you for sharing your struggle and for providing inspiring tips. Praying helps me a lot.
    PS. Loved your latest book trailer. ❤

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  11. I think you said it all excellently. Best to you and yours. I hope the stress subsides soon and things are resolved well, whatever it is. hugs

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  12. Good tips, indeed. You're right about those stressful times that befall us all. What always floors me is that the universe seems to dump everything at the same time. A little drizzle of woe I could deal with, the deluge, not so much. Take care. It will pass, and I hope soon.

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    1. So true! You nailed it on the head. And it's not just one big thing - it's multiple big things. Like the universe is just trying to see exactly how much I can handle.

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  13. All good tips. Thanks for sharing Sherry!

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  14. I am sorry to hear about your stress, but agree that looking for things to be thankful helps reorient our focus. Blessings!

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  15. I'm also facing a very stressful summer, hope luck smiles upon us both! I've noticed that as I'm getting older I take all that comes my way without losing my nerves, just calmly like I'm immune to it or something. Once you face oh so many troubles in life, new ones just ain't worth getting annoyed about

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    1. I'm glad you are able to let a lot of trouble roll of your back. Usually I can, too. But the ones that have rolled into my life are tough, and won't easily go away.

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    2. Hope things get better for you, too!

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  16. Great post Sherry! Great words!! I too am having a "stressful" time, but I am breathing and taking everyday as is! Why worry, right?? It will all work out in the end! We just have to keep on smiling! Big Hugs!

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